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    The Megan Meier Myspace suicide, 10 days later   
    Tuesday, November 20 2007 @ 07:14 PM CST
    By David L. Farquhar

    It's been about 10 days since the story first broke about 13-year-old Megan Meier being harassed online by a 48-year-old neighbor posing online as a 16-year-old boy and eventually being driven to suicide. The blogosphere has gone nuts, the story has national and even international attention, and while none of this will bring Megan Meier back, at least there's been some progress.

    On Monday, the St. Louis Post-Dispatch named the 48-year-old impersonator. From what the story said, the family gets very little peace, and the neighbors don't care much for them. Their life wasn't good even before the story broke, and it hasn't gotten any better in the past week.

    Comments on various blogs indicate the impersonator's phones have been disconnected. As widespread as that information had become, their phones probably never stopped ringing. This harassment is illegal, but I still have a hard time feeling sorry for them.

    The original police report showed up on The Smoking Gun. Reading it made me even madder. The part that bothered me the most:

    Despite the recency of the suicide and several neighbors recommending she not contact the Meier family (especially on Thanksgiving), Meier stated she and her husband attempted to contact the Meier family three times, "banging on the door" even though Mr. Meier had already told them to leave. [She] wished the current tension be documented in case any of her property is damaged. Further, [she] insisted on contacting the family to "inform them of what she knows." [She] stated she "just needed" to tell them to relieve herself of the "responsibility" and apparent guilt.

    Relieve herself of responsibility and apparent guilt? Document the tension in case of property damage?

    How about a good old-fashioned apology?

    At least one company that advertised with the impersonator's coupon magazine, a carpet cleaning business, stated in public that they will be ending that relationship. They had already committed to being in the next issue, so they may appear in it, but that will be the last.

    Two businesses expressed indifference, according to one commenter, but all it takes is a few businesses pulling their ads to make it difficult to pay the bills.

    A blog surfaced on Sunday, titled Megan Had it Coming. It claims to be written by someone who knew Megan.

    I read the single post there, and I have serious doubts that the author is 14 years old. The spelling and grammar are much better than the typical 14-year-old, and the paragraphs tend to be more complex than I would expect from a 14-year-old. The paragraphs for the most part follow the structure one is taught to use in college.

    That said, some of the elements of the writing are too bad for a gifted 14-year-old. I could write that well (or better) at that age and I know several other people who could too. But the logic is extremely flawed. I believe any English teacher who saw a student capable of writing like that at age 14 would hammer on the child's logic. English teachers aren't satisfied with that quality of work from someone who exhibits this much ability at 14.

    For these reasons, I believe the author is older, and probably had at least the introductory composition course in college. She (I believe the author is probably female) may not have done all that well in the class, or she may have been intentionally making mistakes in an attempt to appear to be a younger and less sophisticated author. When I was a journalism major at Mizzou, I was a go-to guy for people who were having trouble in their Introductory Composition class, so I read a lot of those papers. This piece really reminded me of those papers.

    Let me also say that the most difficult thing for an author to do is to appear to be something that he or she is not. So if a piece of writing doesn't look or sound like that of a 14-year-old girl, then it probably isn't. I agree with the author that Megan Meier wasn't perfect. Let's give her the benefit of the doubt and assume everything she said about Megan is true. The Megan she portrayed reminds me of pretty much every girl aged 12-14 I remember growing up with. Some girls stay that way a lot longer. I definitely remember elements of that kind of behavior in two ex-girlfriends, both of whom were in their early 20s when we dated. A few girls I knew got over it early, and I remember having trouble knowing how to react to them, because they were so different.

    If Megan Meier deserved to die because she was self-conscious, oversensitive, shallow, fickle, difficult to be around, and prone to overreact, then that means virtually every teenager in the world deserves to die. Those flaws are the very essence of that phase of life. It's all a phase, and most people grow out of it. It's not a cause for deserving death. It also doesn't mean that someone who exhibits those characteristics is automatically going to commit suicide.

    It's a terrible logical fallacy.

    I also disagree with the assertion that Megan deserved this fate because a 48-year-old vs. a 14-year-old isn't a fair fight, no matter how you cut it. I would have far more sympathy for the impersonator if the impersonator had been another teenager, acting alone.

    The author tends to talk down, as if she's already outgrown this phase, and even if a 14-year old was already through all this, I don't think she would have enough perspective to comment about it this way. I can't really put my finger on specific phrases, but the whole piece gives me a sense of looking back at 14, rather than being in the thick of 14.

    I have no way of knowing who the author of this one-off blog is. Given writing samples, I can usually figure out if a piece in question was written by the same person, but I have no writing samples to compare. The author could be the original impersonator who is now vying for the title of most hated woman on the Internet. It fits her pattern of behavior. It could also be one of the many contrarian random trolls who are popping up on any blog that mentions Megan Meier and her impersonator by name.

    My friend who lives in the area observed that the blogger referred to a local sports complex as "Tri Sports." The proper name of that complex is the Renaud Spirit Center, and the address is 2650 Tri Sports Circle. Tri Sports Circle is one street over from the street where the Meiers and the impersonators live.

    So the author of this piece is almost certainly local. Given that the impersonator has few or no friends left in the neighborhood, and given how the author of this piece went out of her way to defend the impersonator, I believe the author of this one-off blog probably is none other than the same mind that brought us Josh Evans, the fake-16-year-old boyfriend.

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    The Megan Meier Myspace suicide, 10 days later
    Authored by: steveaubrey on Wednesday, November 28 2007 @ 12:32 PM CST
    The story made the New York Times: http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/28/us/28hoax.html

    They name the offending mother and say they live four doors away from the Meiers. That pretty well wipes out whatever privacy may have been left.

    The story is currently third on the NYT Most Popular list of emailed articles.

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